Okay, first here is a little quiz the answers will be posted down below, you only need to do this if you want to, your answers are yours and your's alone unless you choose to share them.
Alright there are five things you need to do, the water is running and you need to turn it off, the baby is crying and you need to go pick it up, someone is knocking at the door and you need to let them in, the phone is ringing and you need to answer it, and you need to get the laundry off the line as it has started to rain. In what order do you do these five things? You need no extra information just make a decision and stick with it.
So after recent events in my life over this last winter and spring I have decided that I am trying to live my life too fast. I originally moved here to Finley to catch up on some debts I had accumulated over the time I was living in Fargo and had knocked them down to about $3,000. I even bought my mother a $1,300 computer for christmas, since at that time I could afford it.
This was great at the end of the summer I was going to move in with some friends give myself a little bit of freedom from my parents and by August I was going to quit my job, assuming I was debt free, to concentrate on my school work. This plan was great, I was working really hard to get good grades, taking on quite a load but not missing a day of school and keeping up with my studies while still paying off more of my debt. Things were looking pretty good, I'd be done with school in a year, I'd move back to Fargo and Slaughter and I could really devote ourselves to this web business.
I'd been planning to move back to Fargo for some time now. Planning to work on the Web business and get things off the ground. I'd be around my friends and be able to "really enjoy life." Well before the end of February I rolled my pickup, ironically it was heading to school, because I was so determined not to miss a day. Well that caused me to miss several, so many that I couldn't catch up. I had to drop a class and I failed another one all together.
The rolling of my truck also caused me to, well buy a new vehicle. That put me back up to $9,000 in debt not counting the $1,000 I still owed Dell plus the $1,000 I owe bowflex for a weight bench I had also ordered before this all happened. I'm planning a trip to the Cities this summer which will put me out $600 and I owe the gas company $100 for the gas I charged this month. Of course once the summer is over that bill won't get as high.
So my basic payment plans this summer is $250 for my loan, $100 to Dell $100 to Bowflex, $100 to my credit card until it is payed off, $200 for rent, $200 for my insurance, and $100 for gas each month if I spend that much. It is honestly better than the $160 I was spending every 2 weeks on my truck.
Lastly if you have read Slaughters recent post you will see that his father has passed on, I great man who was very close to my heart. When attending his service I learned of how much he had truly accomplished in his life. And he never seemed to rush it. Slow and steady and his hard work payed off in time. He enjoyed life and didn't feel that money or status what ever more important than friends and family. My group of friends where considered adopted children as he was often known as "Dad" to many of us.
And that's why I say "Walk don't Run."
The questions from earlier here is what they mean and typically shows what order you see things as most important:
1. Water: Money
2. Baby: Family
3. Door: Friends
4. Phone: Job or Goals
5. Laundry: Sex
My original order was Shut off the Water, pickup the phone, while I go get the baby, answer the door (give the baby to the person at the door) then go get the laundry. I couldn't understand why I would put money and goals befor friends and family, but I realized that in this I was trying to do things as fast as possible. This perfectly described me, Water I was try to pay my bills as fast as possible, caused me to work to much (Phone) plus I was trying to get my schooling done as soon as possible (also Phone), then came my family and friends, and with every thing else going on who has time for sex?
Well I decided after my new debts, failed classes and recent passing away of close friends, that it's going to take me alot longer to get to where I really wanted to go until it made sense that where I was is where I really needed to be. I need to slow down, I'm in such a hurry to get somewhere that I don't know where I'm going. I realize that yes, life is short, but it's just long enough to be happy. I've finally started to smell the roses and its so comforting.
This is definately one of the lowest points in my life thus far but it has really opened my eyes. It's only when we've lost everything are we free to do anything, when you've hit rock bottom are you finally able to see how high you can climb.
So forget about the water, and when the phone rings let the machine get it. Life's a journey not a destination, so "Walk don't Run."